The First Talk
Do you remember your "talk"? Maybe it was full of information that you didn't want to know...Maybe you didn't get enough information about puberty and all the changes that were headed your way.
Now that it's your turn to give "the talk," you can feel confident that someone has your back. That's right, we are here for you! As you help your little human blossom into a full fledged adult (sass and all), there are a lot of important milestones and developmental issues to deal with.
Why is it important to have this conversation?
One of the most vital things that kids needs during puberty is emotional support. They need to know that their parent or guardian listens and supports them. It's imperative that they have the confidence in a trusted figure who will listen without judgement and help them navigate all the changes they are going through. Can this be challenging with the daily stresses of life? Yes. But is it worth the effort? Absolutely. And that's why we're here to help.
Where to start?
Keep in mind that girls can start puberty as young as 8. And while we all grow at different rates, it's a good idea to begin having conversations with your kid earlier than later about the changes that are headed their way. Start the conversation with your child in the most age appropriate way, so that they can begin to grasp the ideas.
- Don't be shy about using correct terms for body parts : there's a lot of misinformation out there. Helping your child understand their body and the process they are enduring takes the fear out of growing. Also, as they grow up, they will be better educated about the choices they need to make to maintain their health. Lastly, talking about the body openly and accurately allows kids to begin to take authority over their own bodies.
- Listen and react without fear or judgment : Pay attention to how you talk to yourself about your body. Kids pickup quickly on how their parents/guardians talk and view their own bosies, so the emotion you put into your own self talk can influence your child in how they understand their body. When helping them understand their growth, it's important to be as non judgmental as possible so they develop a healthy sense of self.
- Seek out supporting information : there are many books and social media accounts geared towards age appropriate information that parents can use as trusted guides to provide additional information.